5 Ways To Stop Letting People Tear You Down

I hate to say it but this world can be incredibly negative at times. It's disheartening to see and hear how cruel and unreasonable people can be. However, as much as I despise it, it is going to happen. But just because people want to be negative and state their not so nice opinion, it doesn't mean that you have to listen to it or believe it. I have been at this point in my life countless times. I have let what people said to me get me down. I believed what they said. My thoughts turned to "I'm not good enough". "I'm not pretty enough, skinny enough, or tan enough." I thought I wasn't smart enough or funny enough. I have gotten torn down by numerous people; people I called my friend or even people I called family. This is not okay. It is hard enough to believe in yourself without all of the negative opinions. My friends like to describe being tough as having "thick skin" but when people "dog" on you constantly, sometimes it feels like your "thick skin" is just getting scraped right off. It is kind of gross to think about but that is just how I see it. I've been there, this feeling sucks! You just have to learn to not let it tear you down. So here are 5 of my tips that have helped me.

Number one.
Everyone has their own opinions. Everyone has different opinions. People see things in different ways. For example, it's kind of like the number 6. If the number is laying on the ground with one person on either side, one person will see a 6. The other person will see a 9. I'm sure we've all seen this but it really put things into perspective for me. One person may tear you down and say all of these negative things but another person may think you are beautiful, smart, kind, caring and so much more. Bottom line, don't let ONE person's opinion or words tear you down. Too many other people in this world think you are down right awesome.

Number two.
Understand that everyone has insecurities and some people aren't very good at dealing with them. They don't know how to believe in themselves and they feel that tearing down other people, pointing out their flaws and insecurities only makes them look better. Newsflash! It makes them look like an ass. Just remember that when someone is tearing you down, all they're trying to do is advert the attention away from their own flaws and insecurities.

Number three.
Know your worth. It doesn't matter who you are, you are worthy. Can you have bad days? Heck yeah! Everyone does. Even the person you think is just absolutely perfect, they have bad days. However, just because you have a bad day doesn't mean you are a bad person or whatever negative thought you are thinking. You are powerful. You are strong. You are worthy.

Number four.
Believe in yourself. Do people tell you that you won't be able to lose weight? Do they tell you that you aren't smart enough or that you'll never achieve that? Do they point out every single insecurity you already think about yourself? Well guess what! They are wrong. Nobody knows you better than yourself. If you want to lose weight, then bust your ass and do it! If you want to learn something new that may be a tad hard, devote yourself to learning as much as you can. Always remember, trial and error. That is all it takes. Stop believing these negative thoughts about yourself. Stop telling yourself that you aren't good enough. If you truly want something, whatever that may be, then get up and get it yourself, because YOU CAN!

Number five.
You should only care about what YOUR opinion is of yourself. If you don't like the person you are, then reflect on that and fix the aspects that you don't like. If you think you are a good person and you're just trying to love yourself and be happy then that is all that matters. Your opinion is the only opinion that matters when it comes to how you view yourself.

If you learn to truly believe in yourself and you know in your heart that you do your absolute best then it is so much easier to ignore the hateful and negative comments from other people. Don't ever give up on yourself because of someone else's opinion. Always strive to be the best version of yourself. Most importantly, love the person you are and believe in yourself!

                                          I love the person I am today. I believe in me.